Day 29 of 365 Days of Mindfulness
By Tawnya Love & the Angels
January 29th, 2017
Are You a Lover or a Fighter? Take a moment and feel the immediate response or reaction that arises within yourself as you tune in to answer this question. For myself, I spent years being a fighter. I felt like I was fighting constantly. Now, first of all, let’s take the pressure off. Your answer isn’t a right or wrong answer. So get rid of any need to feel defensive or justified for your choices up to this Now moment. Just FEEL for the answer within yourself, right Here, right Now.
When I was a fighter like I shared, I felt like I was fighting with everything. I was literally abused as a child, and so I can honor that for a part of my journey, being a fighter just may have saved my life….Or that choice just may have invited more drama into my world. What I do know is that for a time, I felt a need to fight! And so fight I did!
One day, this response to fight started to FEEL exhausting. I just couldn’t keep going the way I had been going for so long. I get an image of Rocky Balboa in his last film, called Creed. Rocky was so used to fighting- and one could say he was justified, even paid to fight. His entire egoic Identity was attached to being a great fighter. However, there came a day when fighting no longer served his soul. There came a day when surrender was neccasary, not only for survival but for health, happiness and joy.
In my humble perspective, I feel we all will benefit greatly when we come to that moment of awareness where we choose to Stop Fighting Anything. Wisdom of the basic laws of attraction can help us understand that anything we resist, persists…That which we fight, we invite! If you don’t believe me, that’s okay. Don’t take my word for it. Test it out and experience it for yourself, and then you will Know truth!
Look at something in your life from the past where you chose to fight, resist, manipulate or control. Be honest with yourself, and notice if in those attempts, you started to receive more life situations or people to fight, resist or attempt to control. Now, on the opposite side of the spectrum, observe times you chose to accept others, life situations or inner conditions, times where you surrendered the fight-resist response. Observe how in those moments, life offered you solutions, helpers, and what some may even call Miracles.
Now, if you’ve always been fighting everyone and everything – maybe even yourself included – perhaps you could open yourself to a new way, or perhaps you feel “No! I cannot be open to another way. I must fight, fight, fight!” Just notice. Be aware of your inner self.
Just bring presence inward, and notice if you feel open to moving in a new direction or if there is resistance. Just Observe. Just FEEL. Listen and Allow. Simply bringing awareness is the rising of consciousness. This is a beautiful choice, for when we invite consciousness, we invite Miraculous Solutions, and often, incredibly powerful shifts occur.
When one chooses the path of the Lover rather than the Fighter, a great shift ignites first within the human making this choice, and then within all of this humans’ creations, relationships and so on. It’s important to understand that All of our focus will be best utilized when we are focused within. We can shift ourselves and choose to change Our behavior. We can Not shift anyone else’s behavior or choices, we can only support and heal ourselves. This is Our work to do.
It’s important to understand this, because if you haven’t realized this yet, you will be one of the countless humans avoiding your own inner work in an attempt to Save the World “Out There,” or avoiding your own inner healing in an attempt to Change another’s behavior. It’s Impossible to make others change. The fighters are often, from what I have observed, wasting countless energy fighting others, trying to change others, and trying to change the external world. It is an exhausting path, and a path many will find lots of arguments and justifications for choosing to continue their fight.
Fighting invites more of the same. Loving invites transformation. When the day arrives where you suddenly realize that fighting is not working for you or others, an inner shift occurs. Suddenly, your primary focus is Love. First you will start to care more about your inner state of peace and ease than you will about fighting anything. Self Love will become Incredibly interesting and important to you. This is Not selfishness- self Love is our most important focus, for we cannot truly Love another until we have mastered self Love.
Many humans have been conditioned to believe that caring about their own needs, feelings or emotions is selfish. This is Not true. Often as humans, we are conditioned out of self Love. We then become angry, frustrated, and have incredible Dis-ease. If these inner shifts go unnoticed, they can quickly lead to unconscious behavior. The human finds themselves fighting within, and it won’t be long before they invite the external fight.
It’s important to catch this, and to observe how we have been trained out of Loving ourselves, and conditioned and trained out of Loving others. I truly do not observe babies hating others, or hating themselves. Babies are taught by the hurting humans around them to give up their Alignment with Source, to give up self Love and start the human fight and resistance.
I encourage you to just observe this for yourself.
When a human has chosen to SEE clearly, everything can shift. Again, the first shifts will be inner shifts, as the human chooses to return to Love- as this human suddenly starts to care about how he or she FEELS within, as they care about their own needs being met, and then give themselves the Love they’ve been waiting for.
We cannot truly Get our Love “Out There,” though many will attempt to get Love from parents, friends, peers, partners, lovers, children, co workers, or even society as a whole. We can seek it and seek it, until we realize there is not enough Love in this world to make up for the lack of Love we hold within ourselves. No one, I repeat No one, can Ever Love You enough to make up for your refusal to Love Yourself.
Now, when we realize we’ve been looking for Love in all the wrong places, we are beginning to awaken. Now we have an important choice to make: Do we continue the search for Love “Out There”? Do we continue to deny ourselves Love Now, and keep on fighting others and ourselves? Do we keep justifying why we have to fight? Or do we choose to stop the madness, stop the fight, and Surrender? When we choose to surrender, this is the first step of our return to Love.
As we choose to BE Love, we naturally realign with Source God. We connect with each new sacred moment with a few choices. We accept this moment which offered us ease. We move around any perceived obstacles. For example, if we have a negative thought arise, we choose to move beyond it and choose a Loving thought. Or in our external Reality, if someone opposes us, lashes out at us or shames us, we choose to step aside, move around or beyond this external distraction. We realize we have the power to choose.
We have always had the power to choose. However, Now we realize it, and we make our choices from self Love. This is a miraculous new way of being and living. We find ourselves in a state of peace and ease. We notice that life works things out for us- solutions arise, helpers show up. We Allow life to support us on every level, and we SEE clearly that we do Not ever need to fight Anything. In fact, we observe that fighting has never been more efficient.
When we choose to BE Love, we co-create Love. We co-create Miracles. When we choose to fight and shame, we co-create more pain and shame within ourselves, and we project that pain upon others. If the others are still unconscious, we assist them in taking in more guilt, pain and shame, and we suffer because we are co-creating suffering. There is no freedom in fighting, no freedom in creating suffering.
Love is the answer. Love is the solution. Love is All We Need. This universal truth has always been here within each of us, and it shall always be here available within each of us. No fight needed. Love shall set You Free!!!
Infinite Love and Blessings, Tawnya Love & the Angels
Thank You for All You Are All You give in Spreading the gift of LOVE each sacred moment!!! 💖